Thursday, October 6, 2011

Day 6: How do you?

Day 6: How do you answer the question of how many children you have?

This is a tough one.

  Depends.

Depends on the situation.
Depends on the day.
Depends on the mood I am.
Depends if someone is being persistent.
ESPECIALLY depends if someone is insisting I "need" a girl.  

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Honestly though?  It is becoming more and more important for me to say that there are five.  That I did have a little girl.  And I just say she has passed.  No elaborations.  No discussion.

It usually ends in "Oh..I am sorry"
Followed by me saying "Oh, it's okay....."
And then change of subject by me immediately to protect them.

But I have an innate need lately to say
 "she was here"

For me.  For her dad.  For her brothers.

2 comments:

Kimberly&Jason said...

What a sweet picture! I dislike that question very much. I too weigh the situation and hope that the explaining will become easier with time. Our babies deserve to be remembered and talked about, even if other people aren't so comfortable with it.

Heidi said...

It's a tough one, isn't it!

And thanks! This is the only photo we have the boys with Jamie. It was taken by us, because they left before NILMDTS got there. I regret not having a picture of all of us taken...but they really needed to go home after she passed.